I try to put the most important tips for you at the top of my post, but I am having a hard time distilling the information below.
If you keep reading you can find out about making/changing habits and asking better questions to improve your life.
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I just finished “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg
Let me back up a bit. I have a few daily readers that I pick something from in the morning and try to focus on for the day. One is “Giant Steps” by Anthony Robbins.
Day 13 said pick a goal and write a paragraph on why you must accomplish this goal. I read it, didn’t do anything but didn’t move my bookmark knowing I would come back to it. So Monday I figured this is not hard just do it. So I sent myself an email journal entry. Which is something I have been working on this week. This is what I wrote to myself:
This morning I read #13 again of Giant Steps. I choose 2 goals. Finish “the power of Habit” which I am 25% of the way through 2:46 of 10:53. By 12/4 Thursday evening. I absolutely must attain this goal by then because I have and appointment with the OB on 12/5 and I expect they will strip my membranes and I will deliver my baby. I can do this it will require effort. I will have to carry around my phone and earbuds and use every opportunity to listen to this book. I will pay attention while listening.
Not too exciting it was a note to myself I didn’t intend to share. Last night I was listening to my book and noticed I was 79% finished with my book. (Smart AudioBook Reader shows you the percentage complete and how much time is left at the speed you are on) and I remembered that I had made this goal and written this paragraph. Just the act of writing this down and making a plan I did it without thinking about it. Which I thought was pretty amazing. A long time ago in a Brian Tracy book he said that just by writing goals down and never looking at them again people are more likely to accomplish them.
So now I am going above and beyond my original goal and sharing with you.
Here is a diagram from the book explaining how to identify and change habits.
I expect to have my baby tomorrow and this will be my last baby. I plan to get into the best shape of my life and lose that baby weight that stuck around after my baby who is 18 years old now.
I have to make new habits (really modify old bad habits and substitute new routines).
The other book I finished is “QBQ! The Question Behind the Question: Practicing Personal Accountability at Work and in Life”by John G. Miller
I already knew:
- When you ask better questions you get better answers.
- Your wants to answer questions and wants to make you right.
- You brain will keep working on the questions you ask.
So I asked kept asking myself “How can I make Journaling easier and how can I make it a habit?” I will write in a journal every day for 2 weeks then not write in it for 2 months. I hadn’t figured out how to make it stick. I am still working on it but this prompted me to listen to the power of habit and write the paragraph I shared above. I put a notebook in my bathroom and wrote in it every day for a while then I took it in my car thinking I would write in car-line. This didn’t quite fix the “make it easier” issue I was having. I misplaced the notebook. I send myself emails but they are not quite so easy to access and read over and review which is one of the main reasons I want to journal. They get lost in my mess of an inbox. Now I am thinking at the end of the week I will copy and paste and print and put in a binder. Make those steps a habit then I will accomplish my intention.
So QBQ is about asking better questions not quite the same theme as I was working on but here is his format.
- Begin with “What” or “How,” (not “Why,” “When,” or “Who”).
- Contain an “I,” (not “They,” “Them,” “We,” or “You”).
- Focus on action.
So instead of “Why do bad things always happen to me?” “What can I do to make things better?” or “Why do other people ….?” “How can I …?”